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 An engagement is a beautiful ceremony when a couple in love declares themselves husband and wife. On this day, the groom asks for the girl's hand in marriage from her or her parents. Let's look at the engagement from several points of view.

If you go back a hundred years, then in those days, an engagement was a mandatory rite that was part of every wedding cycle. Young people went to bow to their parents, ask for a blessing on the marriage. After that, the parents discussed all the conditions of the future marriage, began to prepare for the wedding. And the fathers of the young secured the future Union with the help of the rite of needlework. After that, the future marriage became a foregone conclusion, and it was no longer possible to refuse it. The engagement ring that the groom puts on the bride's hand is usually worn until the wedding day, after which she takes it off and keeps it as the Apple of her eye. And later passes it on to his children and grandchildren. However, in fairness, it is worth noting that the facts of breaking the engagement were still there. At the same time, those who refused to marry for any reason, had to pay a considerable compensation, as compensation for damages, for the dishonor inflicted on the family.

Special attention should be paid to engagement in our days. Most people are familiar with it from movies where the Catholic Church rules. In General, the rite has not changed much. The groom also asks for the hand of his beloved girl. The only difference is that the engagement is now held on a voluntary basis, and the engagement itself is no longer a prerequisite for the wedding. Today, there are not so many couples who consciously go to an engagement, really understanding its original essence. Most often attracts the fact of a beautiful ceremony. So, what is an engagement today?

What is the situation today

Oddly enough, today the meaning that young people put in the rite of engagement is not always the same. And today there are at least three views that, despite the General similarity, are still slightly different and carry their own characteristics.

Most people, contrary to first glance, consider the day of engagement to be the day when a guy and a girl declare their desire to marry their parents. How all this will be furnished depends largely on the desire of the lovers themselves. You can, following the traditions, ask for the hand of your bride, you can just hold hands and flashing happy looks to please, finally, your parents with the long-awaited news. And as a sign that the young are engaged, the groom puts an engagement ring on the hand of his beloved. Thus, the young people declare to everyone that although they are not yet husband and wife, they are no longer free. In addition, on this day, it is customary to introduce parents who are already beginning to discuss the details of a future wedding. Most often, all this is held at the home of the bride's parents, where future relatives meet at a set table. Alternatively, if the wealth of families allows, then this event is held in a cafe or restaurant, but many believe that the soulfulness of the event is lost.

There is a third view of engagement, when a couple declares themselves engaged long before the wedding. In this case, of course, the wedding is planned, but it will take place in two or three years, or even after an indefinite period. Such an engagement can hardly be called anything other than an attempt to bind a person to yourself. Most often, it is taken when one of the couple leaves for a long time. For example, a young man goes to the army. And, fearing that during this time the girl would not change her mind about waiting for him, he offers her an engagement. Needless to say, such a promise keeps a few, but only those who really love and want to wait.

Is an engagement really necessary?

This question cannot be answered unequivocally. Many parents of a young couple speak out in favor of engagement, as young people gradually begin to get used to responsibility and life together. Often, after getting engaged, young people start living together. Despite the fact that most people of the old school (most often grandparents) are against such a step, since it is not appropriate for a girl to live with a guy before the wedding, this step has many advantages. If before this young people lived with their parents, then suddenly after the wedding, left alone, everything can go wrong, as each of them drew in their rosy dreams. Some habits or features of a person may be annoying, or even it turns out that the girl does not know how to cook properly, and cleaning does not burden herself at all. But this is already from the category of extremes. Even more innocent things can make you lose your temper, such as an unwashed mug after Breakfast, a tube of toothpaste squeezed out of the middle, things thrown on the chair, and much more. Oddly enough, these little things can cause a divorce. In such a situation, getting engaged and deciding to live together for a few months before the wedding is quite reasonable steps that prepare people for responsibility and life together.

If an engagement is made as an attempt to bind someone to yourself, then such a step is unlikely to cause approval from anyone. Often in this case, the meaning of the engagement is distorted by a selfish desire to connect a loved one, so that during the 5 years while you are at school , the second half does not think to change their mind and find someone who will brighten up her existence in these five years. It's better to just promise to wait. If a man wants it, he will wait; if not, the pretended ties of betrothal will not hold him back.

In General, the debate about whether an engagement is needed today will continue for a very long time. And it is unlikely that the debaters will come to a consensus. Most couples treat an engagement as a beautiful ceremony that will only strengthen their feelings and intentions, and allow them to look at their life together from a new angle. If young people take this step driven by love, it will only bring them joy. If the engagement is driven by the fear of losing a person, then you should think again before announcing it.